$r = q("SELECT `id` FROM `contact` WHERE `uid` = (SELECT `uid` FROM `user` WHERE `nickname` = '%s' LIMIT 1)
AND `nick` = '%s' AND NOT `self` AND (`url` LIKE '%%%s%%' OR `nurl` LIKE '%%%s%%') AND NOT `blocked` AND NOT `pending` LIMIT 1",
dbesc($contact_nick),
$r = q("SELECT `id` FROM `contact` WHERE `uid` = (SELECT `uid` FROM `user` WHERE `nickname` = '%s' LIMIT 1)
AND `nick` = '%s' AND NOT `self` AND (`url` LIKE '%%%s%%' OR `nurl` LIKE '%%%s%%') AND NOT `blocked` AND NOT `pending` LIMIT 1",
dbesc($contact_nick),