$r = q("SELECT * FROM `contact` WHERE `uid` = %d AND NOT `blocked`".
" AND NOT `pending` AND `self` LIMIT 1",
intval($owner['uid']));
$r = q("SELECT * FROM `contact` WHERE `uid` = %d AND NOT `blocked`".
" AND NOT `pending` AND `self` LIMIT 1",
intval($owner['uid']));