$allow_cid = ($private ? '<' . $contact['id']. '>' : $a->user['allow_cid']);
$allow_gid = ($private ? '' : $a->user['allow_gid']);
$deny_cid = ($private ? '' : $a->user['deny_cid']);
$deny_gid = ($private ? '' : $a->user['deny_gid']);
$allow_cid = ($private ? '<' . $contact['id']. '>' : $a->user['allow_cid']);
$allow_gid = ($private ? '' : $a->user['allow_gid']);
$deny_cid = ($private ? '' : $a->user['deny_cid']);
$deny_gid = ($private ? '' : $a->user['deny_gid']);